Moms We Love: Solange
Sunday, May 11, 2014
This Mother’s Day, we were fortunate enough to talk to a mom we’re truly inspired by about what it’s like to be a parent and what she learned from her own mother.
Singer, songwriter and number one cool mom Solange Knowles spoke to us about her nine-year-old son Julez, her mother Tina, and what advice she would give the next generation about becoming parents.
What’s the most important thing you learned from your mother?
Independence. My mother always expressed the importance of independence whether it be in your outer expressions of life, your ways of thinking, in your career, your ideals and morals… it should always start with you. And she didn’t only teach us that — she showed us every day.
What’s the best thing about being a mom?
Honestly, the kind of love and lessons you receive from your child are the most valuable ones in life.
That kind of love is indescribable. It lights up your world in ways you literally can’t explain.
Also, when you make mistakes and act a fool in life, you are now thinking: I have a child I should be setting an example for. That kind of growth and responsibility makes you a better you!
What advice would you give to the next generation as they begin to start families of their own?
Everyone has to figure out their pathways as parents on their own. There is no wrong or right way — it’s solely based on what feels right.
Also you might have all these ideals and “will and will not do’s,” but your child’s personality might change all of that as you go along. I think the journey into parenthood cannot be written in any one or two ways.
I had Julez at 18 — which is certainly not society’s ideal time to start a family — but honestly, growing up with Julez has been the absolute best thing that’s ever happened to me. Out of everything I do, being a mother is the thing I’m most proud of.
Photo credit: Seiji Fujimori